I have struggled with self-portraits for as long as I have been drawing and painting. But why? While I was painting this self-portrait (finally one I don’t consider a failure!) I realized that my issue with self-portraits was not simply because “art is hard” but that my issue with self-portraits goes beyond art and is rooted much deeper.
I am so self-critical that it has distorted the way I see myself. In fact, I had to tell myself while painting to pretend that it was someone else and that it wasn’t actually me because if I didn’t dissociate myself from myself (does this even make sense?) I’d want to tweak my “flaws”. My “flaws” aren’t even flaws…they are just things I don’t like about myself in comparison to other people. I think this kind of goes along with popularized beauty standards. I hate to admit it. So, in my previous self-portraits I would try to change myself—my jawline, my forehead, my cheekbones, my nose, my lips, etc. and of course, in the end result, I’d never quite represent myself because I had altered myself.
Self-portraits are not about trying to look or be like someone else. Self-portraits are about accepting yourself as you are and portraying the real you, not the ideal you.
**As a funny side note, once I finished this painting and went to take a photo of it, I realized I had been wearing my pants on backwards…